IT’S YOUR RACE BUT ALSO YOUR TRACK
I read an anonymous quote, “Not all persons that call to check on you really care about you; some of them actually want to make sure you are not doing better them.” It is very disheartening to know that some people think your success is impedimenta to theirs whether they are in the same field with you or not. They are typically so concerned and believe you have no reason to do better than them because they have better education, qualification, skill and talent so you have no reason to be better than them or they think why should you have so much when they don’t? They think they should have been the one occupying your position.
From one of John C. Maxwell’s book, I read a story of when he met an old school friend who walked up to him at the end of a conference meeting where Maxwell was a speaker and after they had exchanged pleasantries, they began recalling few other colleagues that they both knew. The man was very comfortable talking about how a couple of those people he had seen recently were not doing so well but his emotion sharply shifted when it came to Maxwell and few others that had risen above average. According to the story, he almost got near tears as he was asking Maxwell how he has come to make it so much but he is still struggling with everything in life. From the conversation, Maxwell wrote that the man wasn’t so concerned about what to do or how he could change fortune for himself. Rather, he kept asking how come Maxwell has made so much success. It was obvious he could have been happier if they both had been on the same level or if he was doing better than Maxwell. There are people like that everywhere.
A friend like a brother, Mr. Oluwaseyifunmi Peters also shared about his High School mate who made a comment that one of the reasons why most of their mates hadn’t been turning out for the alumni meeting is because they feel they are not doing well enough compared to how some others that were their mates are doing. That got me to thinking. That means they would have not mind the open if they are doing better than others or perhaps just as others are doing. Such attitude unconsciously breeds resentment and bad wishes towards those we perceive to be doing better than us.
It is very important to realize some facts about this life that we’re living in; some things are predetermined and you can’t change them. What you choose to do with these facts is the only control you have and the good news is, you can make absolute difference by what you do with you have. Here are some of the facts of life:
We all begin at different spot.
Nobody born into this world ever chose where he/she wants to be born or into which family to be born and that is the beginning. No man ever choose his starting point, it was predetermined and chosen for you by destiny. But it is good to also know that your starting point has nothing to do with your destination. Some started very big but ended up small while some started not only small, but with nothing. Yet, their habour was incomparably huge. Note: never trust or get troubled because of your beginning, where you come from, financial background, family history or parental status. They did not choose you, neither did you decide them. Just accept it!
We’re all giving something.
From the popular parable of the master that shared talents to his servants, we get to know that no one in this race of life ever came empty. No matter how tiny or seemingly insignificant you think what you have is, it is just enough to get you what you want and where you are going to. Most people face the same problem the last servant in the parable had; he thought he could do nothing with what he had and rather trashed it. Worst situation for some is that they don’t even know what they have! Note: think and figure out what gift or talent you have. Develop it into great skill and let it make fortune for you.
Life’s a choice.
Many people have not come to terms with this fact about life. I always say, “Whatever comes the way of a man is meant to be but he decides whether it remains temporal or permanent.” Life and living are choices. How we live our life is the choice we make irrespective of whether we consciously or otherwise make the choice because failing to make a choice is also a choice you have chosen to make. In case you fail to make any choice, it will be made for you and you have to live with it. Note: your life is in your hands, if you fail to make decisions or take bold steps that will take you to places you desire, then you have no one to blame for remaining at one spot but yourself.
“If life’s a choice, what choice have you made?”
Life’s a race but we run in different tracks.
Everyone knows life’s a race but we need to realize the fact that we run on different tracks. Some are in marathon, double relay huddles and some are in single relay, sprints etc. We run on different tracks and we don’t have the same finish-line so there’s no point running on someone else’s timing. How fast or slow others are does not determine your pace and yours has nothing to do with theirs. Note: we will all get to our destinations only if we are tenacious enough and it matters nothing whether somebody gets to theirs before you get to yours. No one can take your destiny or run your race. Even if you fall and it doesn’t matter how many times, rice again. Don’t hate!
Life’s a bus.
Life is like a bus; it goes nowhere in particular but can take you everywhere. Imagine yourself in a commuter bus, everybody has different destination and you will be a fool to alight at someone else’s bus-stop simply because they’ve arrive on time. Your dilemma will worsen if you don’t even know where you are going because everywhere will look like it; you will end up in a cycle. Note: know what you are cut out for and how you want to get to where you are going to avoid wasting your life and dissipating energy on fruitless ventures that may cause you to lament or resent others. Blame no one for your failure.
I can go on and on with these facts but I will assume that they are not what you don’t already know. My dear lady friend, Elizabeth Ezekiel will always say, “Happiness is not an option.” Sure it is not but some still never make the choice to be happy and they blame other people for their sadness, that’s cruel if you ask me. If you haven’t ever come across the book “Who Moved My Cheese” by Spencer Johnson, M.D, I’ll recommend you get it to read and understand how things get to happen right under your nose and forming ignorance of these events will only be at your own detriment.
Thanks for letting me share some of my insight with you.
You mind to share some other facts of life? Post them here in the comment box.